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rewind: Survivors, Clark Kents, and Mind Shapers

21 Jan

(A 2011 note i wrote, of which i am reminded so much today…)

At the end of the day, i realize…there will always be “downers”: a person, an event, a task.

It’s just a matter of having the right attitude and the courage to sing in the rain while waiting for the sun to shine.

It indeed is just a question of FAITH, of keeping the faith…even when faith seems to have gone somewhere else.

-JaMaDi9

A quote I came up with a few years back to help me stay hopeful despite the challenges in life.  A quote which I couldn’t help but remember after reflecting on the things I learned and re-learned at the recent events I attended, not to forget the sad news typhoon Pedring brought.

Survivors, NOT Victims

I must admit, I still tend to use the term “victim” to refer to those in need of psychosocial processing after a stressful life experience when in fact, the appropriate term is “survivor”.

Survivor…it does sound waaaay better. I survived. I am surviving.  I will survive.  Isn’t it wonderful how tough our Creator made us? Alhamdulillahi Rabbi’l Alamin (Praise be to God, Lord of all creations).

Survivor…just using the term can unconsciously give us a better view of our interaction with them.  No, we are not there to pity them. No, we are not simply there to ease their burdens…we are there to walk with them and learn much from them. Reflect, relate, re-learn, in sha ALLAH (God willing).

Are you a victim…or a survivor?

Who’s taking care of you?

For a moment, when our speaker-facilitator shared that question, I felt a need to laugh and sigh at the same time.  It’s the question most psychologists or caregivers probably hate to answer when they’re near burnout (or probably already are).

Had I been asked this question a couple of months back (or, say, for the most part of 2008), I probably would’ve cried much, too.  Who’s taking care of you?  Who’s there to listen–like really, really listen–when it’s your turn to exhale?  And I don’t mean I am forgetting The Almighty here…just stating the simple fact that in this world–in this temporary world, we all need some support (which honestly gives everyone the opportunity to be a real blessing to others, too).

We’re no superheroes, really.  And when I say superheroes here, I mean the unconscious assumption (or stereotype, if you may) that we can handle everything and process ourselves on our own always.  It’s quite tragic.  People fail to step out of themselves that they can’t see one simple fact–the reason for the other’s ability to understand and help is the fact that the other is not really different from anyone. The other also smiles and laughs like everyone. The supposed superhero also gets hurt or feels pain like everyone.  And unless people suspend being concerned with oneself too much, the world will always be divided into people who have someones taking care of them and the someones who have no one.

Reach out. Recharge. Reach UP. In shaa ALLAH.

Thoughts = YOU

Whether we like to admit it or not, how we think and what we think of are influenced by the society (starting from our immediate family) in which we find ourselves.  We don’t live in a vacuum, after all.  Practices, beliefs, values, and even dreams are socialized until we find ourselves thinking of them as the only way for the world to work, for people to have a truly meaningful life.  How I wish I could tell you this influence is always positive.  Look around you and you’ll see a lot of realities telling you otherwise.

However, we are not passive individuals. We have the power to change the way we think of ourselves, of our situation, of others, of the world.  In fact, I still like to believe we are the best shapers of our own minds, and consequently, our lives. Are you a victim…or a survivor?

And, i guess thinking about what and how we think helps us change for the better, for real.  When you finally find what you have to change, you now make a move.  And if you truly wanted to make a move, you’ll find endless options to actualize the change in you that you need.  It may take much effort, but it is possible…difficult in the beginning, but once you get the hang of it, you find yourself automatically conversing with yourself–or better yet, you find your heart conversing with The Almighty.

Challenge your thoughts. Create positivity. Change for the better, for the best. We can, and with HIM, we will. In shaa ALLAH.

At the end of the day, i realize…there will always be “downers”: a person, an event, a task.

It’s just a matter of having the right attitude and the courage to sing in the rain while waiting for the sun to shine.

It indeed is just a question of FAITH, of keeping the faith…even when faith seems to have gone somewhere else.

-JaMaDi9

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Posted by on January 21, 2014 in reach UP, wOrK = pLaY

 

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